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Living In-Between: Less Stuff, More People

We’re in the home stretch people!! Just nine more days of this in-between business on the blog and then I can write about something else. Shew! I actually do have a plan up my sleeve for November and I’m super excited about it since I’m pretty sure I could write about it every day of the year. But I won’t be blogging every day in November so don’t worry. I’ll announce the new series next week, but let’s just say it’s an honor of National Adoption Month. I think I kinda gave it away, didn’t I?

Moving on…

Something that I’ve felt pressing on me in this series and this season in life is the idea/goal of being prepared. That can be difficult in an in-between phase because many times we don’t know exactly what it is we’re waiting for, or what’s coming around the bend. So how to we get ready for something we’re unaware of. I think that sort of answers itself. My goal has been to prepare myself for the unknown. 

How do you prepare yourself for the unknown? I’ve been asking myself that question a lot this month and it really boils down to two things: prepare to stay, and prepare to go. And quickly.

Preparing to stay isn’t hard. Staying is easy because nothing really changes. It’s more of a mindset to settle in for awhile longer and doesn’t take much action on my part. Preparing to go, with little notice, on the other hand takes quite a bit more planning. As I’ve been thinking about how I can make my home, my heart, and my family ready to pick up our lives and start over again one phrase keeps coming to mind: less stuff, more people.

I’ve been feeling an overwhelming urge to get rid of so much of our material things. I know that if we are asked to leave in just a short while I will not be sitting in my new home wishing I had piles and bags of clothes in my attic or extra dishes, appliances, and furniture cluttering up my rooms, cabinets, garage, and closets. No I won’t miss those things at all. But I may wish I had spent more time with the people I love… with friends, family, and all of those who get to see regularly now. So I’m purging the things and trying to fill up on the people.

Yesterday we sold our Subaru to a girl who came up through our youth group. It was so fun to see her excitement over owning her very first car! As we drove away in our one remaining car we commenting to each other that we both felt so relieved. The extra car had been a burden. In a couple weeks we’re having a yard sale. I’m going through the house and the attic make piles: one for the sale, one for the dump, and a teeny tiny pile of things that stay with us. I can’t wait to be rid of all the extra that doesn’t make our lives any richer or more meaningful.

As for the people. I’ve been trying to fill in the days with more coffee dates, play dates, meaningful conversations, fun outings, and such. I’ve been saying “yes” to people far more than in the past, while still keeping a fairly sane schedule. I’ve been listening and loving more. I’ve been texting, emailing, calling, and hugging more. I want the people in my life to know I love them. I want them to know that distance won’t change that and I want to build up a bank of memories to think on if/when we’re far away and I’m missing them.

Less stuff, more people. I’m thinking that’s not just the best way to live during the in-between… but through all seasons of life.

(^^Elaine and her “new” car, right before she drove herself to work for the very first time!)

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