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We will get our hands dirty!

“My friends, adoption is redemption. It’s costly, exhausting, expensive, and outrageous. Buying back lives costs so much. When God set out to redeem us, it killed Him.”
-Derek Loux
I saw this quote at this wonderful blog today. It perfectly captured what’s been on my heart lately. As you probably already know, there have been some changes in Ethiopia adoptions lately. We found out last week that we will have to travel to Ethiopia twice instead of once. This increases the cost of our adoption by about $4,000-$6,000. As we’ve shared this news with most people they have been sympathetic, but encouraging. Most just continue to pray for us and stand confident with us that God will provide the extra funds. Last night was the first discouraging encounter I’ve had in relation to the new law. I was on the phone with a family member who had read the news on our facebook group. He first expressed his feelings at how stupid the law seemed to him and how he felt it wouldn’t fix anything and how we were just being taken advantage of. I tried to explain things to him, but I don’t think he understood as he has no experience with or knowledge of international adoption. His next comments surprised me as he informed me that there are tons of kids here in America that need homes and it’s not too late to quit the Ethiopia thing now. It was very clear that’s exactly what he thought we should do. I basically told him that quitting wasn’t an option. That we had invested so much already and in the grand scheme of things this extra trip really isn’t a big deal. The conversation ended fine, but I wasn’t happy when I got off the phone. This mind set scares me, quite frankly. Here’s why:
We’re not in this for us. We’re not in this for our own personal gain and pleasure. We’re not in this to be gratified. We’re not in this for us!!!! We’re in it for someone who can’t help himself. We’re in it to save a life. We’re in it to bring attention to the cause of the orphan. We’re in it for a little boy who deserves parents who are willing to spend a little more money and be “inconvenienced” with an extra trip because HE IS WORTH IT!! 
John and I have felt called to care for the orphans (however you define that word) for a long time. That’s why we took in 2 year old twins when the state removed them from a bad home until their parents could get it together. This same family member had a similar attitude then. We weren’t getting the stipend that the state was supposed to supply for the care of the boys. We were having trouble paying bills because the money was 2 months late. He said we should call and say that they needed to get us the money, or they could come get the boys because we’re done. I was shocked! I informed him that was a terrible idea! All that would happen is that the boys would get moved to another foster home. How horrible for them! We weren’t doing it for us, for our own gain and personal comfort. We were doing to to provide a stable and loving environment for two little boys who desperately needed just that.
I just feel the need to express myself in this area today. We don’t live our lives seeking our own personal comfort. It’s not our goal to “move up in the world.” We don’t seek a bigger house, bigger paycheck, more things, and better vacations. We seek a live lived out loud for Christ’s glory! We seek a life that is poured out in serving others! We seek to live sacrificially so that those who have nothing may have something. I can’t comprehend being okay with a huge house filled with “stuff” and taking lavish vacations and acquiring more and more while there are millions who live moment by moment wondering if they’ll ever eat again, or ever own a pair of shoes, or live in a house even if it’s just one room. That’s not the life we desire. 
So we will pay the extra money to bring Tucker home. We will make the extra trip.We will adopt again. We will do foster care again. Over and over and over we will live our lives to serve others. Because that brings God glory – and as a result it brings us joy! We will get our hands dirty working for the Lord…
“For you were called to freedom, brothers. Only do not use your freedom as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another. For the whole law is fulfilled in one word: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’” 
Galatians 5:13-14

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