His Banner Over Me is Love…
I love the study of the Song of Solomon by Tommy Nelson. It’s a dvd series all about love, sex, and marriage (not in that order… obviously). My husband and I started watching the dvd’s when we were dating, then we got to go to the conference and see it live about a month before we got engaged. While we were at the conference, John bought a copy of the dvd series for us to have. We watched them in the evenings on our honeymoon. Now we try to watch them once a year (usually during the week of our anniversary) and it is such a blessing to us and to our marriage.
One of the verses that I particularly love is “He has taken me to the banquet hall, and his banner over me is love.” SOS 2:4 When you go to a football tail-gate (at VMI at least) there are banners all over the field. “Class of ’04″… “Mom’s of ’07” … and so on. You know who each person is, and where they belong, based on which banner they’re standing under. Well, Solomon’s bride was known to belong to him because of his demonstration of obvious love for her. Everyone could see it – and they knew she was his. My husband loves me like this. I am so blessed to have a man who so obviously loves me that no one would doubt for a second who I belong to. I just want to give a few examples of how John shows his love – because he deserves some recognition!
First of all, John has been doing the sweetest thing for me our entire marriage (almost 4 years). He wakes up a lot earlier than I do… so every morning when I come out to the kitchen I find my Bible open to the verse that corresponds with the devotional he has laid out for me and a love note from him to go with. My coffee cup is always sitting there and all I have to do is push the button to the maker. He does this every day. I have an entire drawer full of all his notes – and soon I am going to have to start filling another drawer.
John comes home from work to eat lunch with me almost every day.
He prays for me every single night before we fall asleep.
John takes care of the kitty litter box (because he knows how gross I think it is and he doesn’t want me to have to smell it).
When I decided that I wanted to start learning to run this spring he was all about it! My wonderful husband said he would be with me every step of the way (even though he could run a lot longer and my itty bitty strides are tough for him with his super long legs). He stays right by my side as I puff and pant my way around the track. He usually runs a couple laps when I’m done to get his exercise in… but the other night it was getting dark when I finished. I told him to go ahead and run – I would be okay. He got halfway around the track and turned around to come back for me saying he didn’t want to leave me when it was dark. (my heart melted a little bit).
I told him the other day that I was participating in Beth Moore’s memory verse challenge
. I gave him my verses and asked him to print out a few copies so I could put them up around the house. He came home with several copies in all different kinds of cute fonts! (He knows how much I love cutesy things) Then he said he would be doing it with me and sure enough – he’s memorizing them too and encouraging me!
Last year on our anniversary he gave me a really special gift. A ruby necklace with 3 little diamonds. The card said, “A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.” Proverbs 31:10 He went on to say that the three diamonds were representative of our 3 years of marriage and also of “a cord of three strands is not quickly broken” Ecclesiastes 4:12 I cried.
And this last act of “bannerful” love… he left the most precious comment on my thankful thursday post yesterday :
“I am thankful for my bride. You are breath to my soul, and you make everyday brighter and brighter. How could God make someone like you for me … somone who loves me so much? It makes me realize how much more God loves me, and how He delights in providing for his children. And realizing that makes me fall even deeper in love with you Lauren, because I can only truly love you with His love; He who loved me first. See you after work! ”
Could anyone doubt who I belong to? Nope! Because “his banner over me is love…” How does your husband wave his banner of love over you? How can you respond in kind? As for me… my daily goal: “She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.” Proverbs 31:12